Energy Vampires

Energy Vampires:  What They Are and How to Stay Protected.

Energy Vampire is a term used to describe people who not only steal your energy, they leave you feeling drained on multiple levels.  And vampires are everywhere! They can be family members, friends, acquaintances, co-workers, service providers...and YOU may even be one yourself.

When you think about old timey vampires, you picture them sucking your blood and leaving you a shell of your former self.  For today's concept of Energy Vampires - think of them as leaving you drained of vital energy, depleting your system and causing you to become unhealthy emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually.  They literally drain you on all levels. 

Have you every seen those little fish that attach themselves to bigger ones and ride around like little bloodsuckers? 

Energy Vampire Fish Remora

This is what an Energy Vampire does - these people believe everything is about them.  They live in victim consciousness and believe they need to latch onto others to feel validated.  This type of lifestyle robs them of their power so they attach themselves to other people's energy. 

When a person attaches themselves to your energy body (your aura or chakras), an energetic cord is formed.  These are not physical or visible cords, they are energy that can be felt or seen with your spirit/psychic eye.  All relationships create cords (for more on this, see my CORD CUTTING WORKSHOP) and when a relationship is mutually beneficial, the cords are a loving exchange that is energizing.

Energetic Cord

However, when in a relationship with an Energy Vampire and they need a boost, they unconsciously steal your energy instead of using their own, through these negative cords. These cords are open channels that flow both ways. That means that you can also potentially receive their energy whether it is positive or negative. 

For example, ever heard that phrase, "misery loves company"...if they have a headache, you may also develop a headache. If they are feeling depressed, you may feel depressed. If they are angry, you may become angry and so on.  As you can see, this can be very detrimental to your health in many ways. 

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At an unconscious level, you have allowed the vampire or vampires to attach themselves to your energy body through these cords.  At times, these cords prevent you from living authentically and this is not how you are meant to exist!  It is imperative that these cords be severed and sometimes a spiritual purification and/or cord cutting is required for your well-being and also for the growth of the other person.  Remember, it's not all about you - the Energy Vampire needs to live authentically as well, even if they don't realize it just yet.

Do you have an Energy Vampire? 

Energy Vampires

Your intuition is the first step in recognizing if there is an Energy Vampire in your life.  If you feel you may be in this type of relationship, straight away pay attention to the first person who comes to mind when you ask yourself this question.  Your intuition is the first line of knowing for these types of things.

For confirmation you can use this list to see if the person you are thinking of has at least 5 of these traits.

Some traits of people who live inn victim consciousness and are energy stealers:

  • Feels lonely or abandoned
  • Feels they have been rejected
  • Needs constant reassurance
  • Never feels satisfied
  • Doesn't like to be alone
  • Seeks nurturing or feels they need to be taken care of
  • Low energy and fatigued
  • They have a "poor me" attitude
  • Is a drama king or queen
  • Constant talker that never allows you to speak
  • Needs you to be their therapist or rescuer fixing their problems
  • The blamer making you feel guilty about things
  • Vindictive by putting you down
  • A person that is unhappy most of the time
  • Tries controlling you or your life, your choices
  • Manipulates you to get things their way, to take the focus off of any responsibility towards themselves.

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Psychic intrusion happens when your aura and energy body is penetrated by this draining energy and you are unable to be 100% detached from a separate entity (in this case, the Energy Vampire)  If you are otherwise living your best life but nonetheless feeling consistently drained in any of the following ways, this list will help you understand if you may be psychically attacked.

You may experience:

  • Dizziness
  • Loss of energy
  • Muscle tension
  • Mental confusion
  • Headaches
  • Chronic fatigue
  • Sleep disturbances
  • Irritability
  • Depressed mood
  • Physical illness
  • Small diminishing aura
  • Leaks, holes and/or tears in your aura
  • Anything placed into your awareness that is not positive and otherwise distracting and negative, for no other apparent reason

Obviously, we all suffer from these types of things on occasion. 

Here are some steps to help you determine and understand if you are a victim of an Energy Vampire:

  • What is your intuition telling you?  If there is something within telling you it's possible you may have an Energy Vampire, ask your higher self directly if you have one.  Look for the energy of confirmation in a way that makes sense to you...
  • Listen to that first thought and your inner voice.  You'll likely see, get a flash, hear the name or simply know who that person is.  It will also probably not be a surprise.
  • If you feel you do not have an Energy Vampire, examine your own life to see if there is a personal reason why you may be experiencing symptoms of being constantly drained and seek out some professional and energetic helpers.
  • If you feel you do have an Energy Vampire, you have options to find your power, please read below
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Knowing that everyone walks a unique path and we all have lessons we are working on, we have to accept that many people are simply not aware of their energetic bodies and how they operate. Once people start taking responsibility for creating their own lives and taking back their personal power this will not be as prevalent. (Granted other conditions also can be the cause of these symptoms besides being energetically attacked.) Either way it is detrimental to your health, in all areas of your energetic being, physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.

 How do I protect yourself from an Energy Vampire?

  • Limit contact with the person you've determined is depleting your energy
  • Release all negative emotions & energy that you carry within yourself towards that person and also in general. If you hold anger, hurt, jealousy, etc. inside your being, it is like you are shackled to a ball and chain, holding yourself hostage.  Why must I do this?   Any time we move from fear to love, a miracle occurs and what are negative emotions if not frequencies of fear!  Releasing negative emotions brings freedom as fear is the robber of peace. Disharmony weakens your energy and can cause your aura to be vulnerable.  Being aware of this is empowering.  Energy Healing can greatly help this process of release of negative energy and bring in protection. 
  • Close & Zip Up Your Aura.  This technique is very effective is sealing your energy off to anything that is not of your highest good.  Closing your aura is something to practice daily, before you leave the house or whenever you are having people in your home.  Learn more about this in The HIGH VIBE LIFE


    Here are some tools to release yourself from an Energy Vampire connection:

    1.  Cord cutting should be done in this situation.  Cord cutting can be done more than once and as often as you deem necessary.  (For more on this in general, please see my blog:  Resetting Relationship Energy) If your energy vampire is related to you, you should still cut cords.  Cord Cutting doesn't sever the relationship, just the negative connection.  


    Learn how to cut cords here:  Cord Cutting Workshop

    For deeper energy work, consider a Violet Flame Session.

    To learn about High Vibe Lifestyle Practices:  The High Vibe Life

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    There are also actions you can take that help cleanse your physical spaces and your emotional and spiritual energy.

    • Burn or get rid off all relevant photographs or objects holding memories of the person, place or situation.
    • Write down all feelings of frustration, anger, hurt, fear, etc., and burn the paper or bury it.  Repeat this step as often as necessary.
    • Smudge with sage, palo santo or the smudge of your choice, and invoke the help of the divine healing angels and Native American Spirits for protection
    • Cleanse and set the intention within your crystals for power and truth, protection and clarity


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